The first time you travel with your significant other is a major step in the relationship. And while it can be fun and exciting, it can also present a number of challenges that the two of you have yet to deal with together. Understanding how to embrace the good and avoid unnecessary friction will serve you well in your travels.
Here are some simple yet surprisingly profound travel tips that will ensure your first trip as a couple is a success:
- Know Your Partner
There’s nothing wrong with a casual trip with a boyfriend or girlfriend. But if you’re going to plan a “real” trip with a significant other – meaning something more than a weekend trip to the mountains – you need to be sure you know your partner below the surface-level attraction that brought you together.
It’s helpful to have different tools for understanding your partner on a deeper level. One suggestion is to learn your partner’s astrology sign and to do some research on what makes them tick, what their tendencies are, etc.
A Taurus man, for example, usually has an eaygoing personality and doesn’t want to distrub the status quo. He likes predictiablity and routine. And since travel is anything but predictable, he could get frustarted or anxious when there are uncontrollable variables in play. Knowing this allows you to be more intentional about how you handle unforseen cirumcnstances. Ultimately, this lessens your chance of having major fights or getting super frustrated.
- Plan the Trip Together
There are situations where one partner is a planner and the other partner just wants to go along for the ride. But in most cases, both partners have opinions and expectations for the trip. If one person plans the entire trip, the other one may become bitter. That’s why we suggest planning the trip together.
When you plan a trip together, you work through the itinerary ahead of time and proactively set expectations. This prevents an issue where you fight over what to do during the trip, thereby ruining your vacation together.
- Prioritize Personal Time
Just because you’re traveling together, doesn’t mean you have to spend every waking second together. In fact, you probably shouldn’t!
Personal time is still necessary on a vacation with your significant other. Understand your partner’s needs. If they’re introverted, they might need an hour in the morning and an hour in the late afternoon to recharge. You’ll have to be open in your communication.
- Keep it Short
One of the biggest questions couples often have is in regards to length. How long should a first trip together be? Well, it depends on who you ask.
“I would say before you go on a longer trip, you should go on a weekend trip together first, near wherever you live,” relationship coach Sameera Sullivan writes. “You have to be smart; you have to be cautious. You don’t want to be in a different country and then hate yourself because you’re with a person you realize you can’t stand. That takes a toll on a new relationship.”
Others believe you should dive right in and plan a weeklong trip, as this gives you a crash course in compatibility. If you end up disagreeing the whole time, you only wasted a week of your life. If you end up getting along great, then you might have just found “the one.”
- Consider Inviting Others
If you think it’s too soon to take a trip together, or you’re worried that you won’t be able to entertain each other for the entirety of the vacation, you might consider inviting others.
There’s obviously a fine line with this decision, so don’t take it lightly. You want to make sure that you’re inviting another couple that you’re compatible with and who has the same budget and expectations as you. Otherwise, the other couple can end up hurting more than helping.
- Get Plenty of Sleep
Traveling will make you tired! And if there’s one thing that anyone who has ever been in a relationship knows, it’s that you’re much more likely to get in a disagreement when you’re tired. Make sure you’re prioritizing sleep so that you wake up feeling refreshed and ready to tackle each day’s adventures!
Traveling as a couple is a great way to strengthen your relationship and get to know your partner on an entirely new level. And if you keep the aforementioned tips in mind, you’ll enjoy the benefits of travel without the potential pitfalls and problems that often plague unsuspecting couples. Consider sharing this article with your partner so that you’re both operating with the same expectations.